Boundaries Are Not Collaborative

Boundaries Are Not Collaborative

“Would you like to brush your teeth this evening?” “I understand you’re mad, but would you be willing to stop yelling?” As parents, we’d never say that. We don’t give kids options. We set boundaries and stick to it. That’s what helps kids grow...
Having No Boundaries Leads to Burnout

Having No Boundaries Leads to Burnout

Unless you’ve been living under a grey rock, you’ve heard about the “Great Resignation.” It’s the global phenomenon where people began leaving their jobs en masse in 2021. We are, collectively, tired of not be treated right, of being taken for granted, and...
Six Ways We Avoid Conflict

Six Ways We Avoid Conflict

We want to be well-liked, but in trying to please everyone and prevent hurt feelings, we often end up creating the very drama we sought to avoid. In this article, I’m sharing the six ways we tend to avoid conflict with a coping behavior. What I discovered when...
Book Launch Day!

Book Launch Day!

Join me for the official launch of my new book, Who is in Charge of Your Brain?! At 11:30 AM PT on Friday, September 8, 2017, this video screen *should* become live.  I’ll be reading you the full book, complete with some character voices, plus sharing where you...
Check Your Assumptions

Check Your Assumptions

“Well, aren’t you optimistic?” That was the first thing an elderly stranger said to me as I walked into the elevator. It is late September here in the Northwest, and I was wearing short shorts and a tank top with a jacket over it. She had taken it all in with an...

What Stops You From Taking Action?

I asked this question on Facebook and got a number of answers (thank you, brave souls) that boiled down to two main obstacles: FEAR Timing Timing, I get, and I support that. Some movements in our lives need us to, as Captain Jack Sparrow says, “wait for the...
What Happens If You Just Ask

What Happens If You Just Ask

How often do you feel you have to accommodate what’s happening in your life? How frequently do you think it’s your job to adapt to the situation, rather than asking for someone else to change? As a Good Girls, we will change ourselves and push down our...
How Quickly Can You Hit the Wall?

How Quickly Can You Hit the Wall?

Sometimes my job is to help people hit the Wall of Futility with both more expediency and compassion than they would on their own. Hitting the Wall of Futility (an expression I first read in an amazing book called “Parenting Without Power Struggles”) is a...
You Need Your Anger

You Need Your Anger

Your ability to be confident is DIRECTLY correlated to your ability to feel and speak on behalf of your anger. If you can’t or won’t allow yourself to get angry, you douse your fire–that inner warrior who rises up in defense of something sacred. Your...
Surrender

Surrender

If you’ve been reading my posts for a while, you know I’ve always got some personal growth “thing” that I’m working on…and what’s been coming up in spades lately is surrender. I remember a friend once evoking it like in the Wizard of Oz, when the witch writes...
Let Your Heart Lean In

Let Your Heart Lean In

I got the nudge to visit the naked lady spa tonight. It was 9pm. I was in Eastlake, just leaving my office, and they close at 10. “Really?” I thought to myself. “That seems not quite right. It’ll be a lot of money for only a little bit of...

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