“Omg, I thought I was the only one!”
“No, girl, me too!”
Dr. Brené Brown talks about the healing power of the words, “Me too” especially when it comes to getting rid of shame. Empathy is the antidote to the corrosiveness of shame.
There is an incredible power that comes from having a supportive group witness, with love and non-judgement, your struggles, inner processes, and wins.
Ultimately, we humans are built by evolution to NEED community with each other. We get brain chemical rewards from connection with each other.
We aren’t the only ones. You may have heard of the Rat Park experiment where researchers gave rats drugged water, but when they were in community, the rats refused it. Alone, they craved and became addicted to it.
Sharing what you are going through provides more relief and comfort than we tend to give it credit for.
When I was sharing about this topic with a good friend, she said I should call it “sharepy,” defined as “the therapeutic experience of sharing your inner thoughts and emotions with supportive people.”
Here’s a little secret that good facilitators all know: Sharepy is the secret ingredient for success in any group learning program.
I used to dismiss the need for group process when I was a student teacher in my 20s. I thought relaying the content material was the critical component for learning.
But what I retain most from my graduate degree and my intensive Constellations training is often what I learned from the group’s experiences. What gave me the most healing were the encounters I had with my peers—talking about the material and how it affected us—and the ways they said, “me too,” despite our many demographic differences.
The most healing were the encounters I had with my peers.
As Maya Angelou said, “At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”
That’s why I built my Soul School group program with lots of time for sharepy. When you join, you’ll get a small crew of open-minded good listeners who are also exploring themselves and wanting to understand. They’ll be there with you to say, “me too!”
And now I’m creating an opportunity for you to meet each other. I’m hosting an Open House for Soul School so you can see the curriculum, sample a bit of what you’ll be experiencing if you join, and meet the bright, warm humans who also want to share this journey.