You may have heard the phrase, "Most people go to therapy to learn how to deal with people who won’t go to therapy." Funny, but true, right? The foundation of most healthy relationships is well-set boundaries. Most people think boundaries mean cutting people off...

Have you ever worked hard on a project, only to have your boss never mention it? Take extra time to get dressed up for "date night" and your spouse doesn’t say anything? Go out of your way for the school fundraiser and no one acknowledges it? Resentment happens when...

One of the biggest factors in an existential crisis is feeling disconnected from your own soul or heart. When you haven't been listening to your heart for a long time, you can start to feel empty. You may notice most things don't bring you a sense of pleasure or...

How do you deal when the going gets tough? I love a good reality show because, as a psychology nerd, I learn so much about how people work -- how they fail, how they deal with inner flaws, and how they get back up again. Snowflake Mountain on Netflix is the latest...

"Would you like to brush your teeth this evening?" "I understand you’re mad, but would you be willing to stop yelling?" As parents, we’d never say that. We don’t give kids options. We set boundaries and stick to it. That’s what helps kids grow up to be responsible...

Unless you’ve been living under a grey rock, you’ve heard about the "Great Resignation." It’s the global phenomenon where people began leaving their jobs en masse in 2021. We are, collectively, tired of not be treated right, of being taken for granted, and of not...

(Harmful people post 2 of 2. See Harmful People Warning Signs here.) Once you're able to spot harmful people, what can you do about them? First, remember it’s not your job to fix anyone, and the more you try, the more it erodes away your own confidence and personal...

(Harmful people post 1 of 2) You've probably heard about "toxic relationships" or difficult people (or toxic people and difficult relationships). In this post I'm using the term "harmful people" to encompass all of those things. I wanted to give you some tools in...

"Just cut them out of your life." You’ve probably heard this advice when talking about dealing with harmful, abusive people, BUT….. What happens when you can’t just have them be dead to you?  If it’s a parent, boss, teammate, or sibling, sometimes you can’t just cut...

Have you ever had this happen? You tell yourself, "Don’t cry, don’t cry, don’t cry… keep it together... don’t cry" … …… And then the water works. Why can't we control those damn emotions?! Emotions are so inconvenient and messy -- I know you probably wish you could...