"I'm not not okay. There's so much chaos in my life right now and I've got to show up for my job and my kids. Can you wave your magic wand, Rachel?!" We are living in a lot of turmoil these days, on global and personal levels. In addition to what's going on in...
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Why Do I Struggle With My Personal Life When I’m So Good At Work
"I don't have a hard time saying 'No' at work. I'm pretty good at boundaries there. Why am I having such difficulty setting boundaries with my friends?!" This is question I get asked a lot–"why do I struggle with personal life stuff, but do so well at work?" For...
I Don’t Want to Make Room for My Feelings
"I am already in a stressful job, plus my parents are aging, and I notice I'm ruminating like all the time. I know there's stuff I'm sad about and I should make time for processing that, but I don't really know how." We generally have a hard time making room for...
Is It Safe to Be Big? Is It Okay to Be Small?
"I have to have all my shit together, all the time. There's no room for me to be vulnerable or weak." When I was in therapy school, I sometimes struggled with being TOO competent. During my first year peer evaluation, my fellow students told me they kind of didn't...
I Need to Get Better Before I Get Help
"I was such a hot mess last week. I had to get myself together before I could call you." Do you find yourself, like my client here, feeling like you have to be presentable BEFORE you can reach out for help? I know this feeling. In my 20s, I found myself in a huge...
Even Your AI Needs to Set Better Boundaries
"Omg, you'll never believe what Claude said to me yesterday! She had some really good insights and she's always so supportive." Millions of people are now using AI like ChatGPT and Claude to help them write, do research, and also talk about their relationships. As a...
What Can I Do About My Loneliness?
"I dropped out of that friend group because of those jerks, but now I'm just by myself a lot of the time. I'm feeling pretty lonely lately...I don't know what to do with that." Pain has a way of making us retreat. Injured or sick animals will often distance...
Boundaries Are an Inside Job
"I told her not to cross that line, but she did it anyway! Why won't she respect my boundaries?!" Here's the thing that most people get wrong about boundaries—they aren't a warning sign you post. They are a commitment to your future behavior when a line gets...
There Is An Antidote to Anxiety– It’s Self-Trust
It's been a hard few weeks for a lot of the people around me lately. I know so many of you are struggling with personal and professional battles, and supporting friends and family who are grappling with their own challenges. It brings up so much anxiety and overwhelm....
Why Am I So Tired All the Time?
"I screwed something up at work, and my logical mind knows it's gonna be okay, but I keep hearing this nasty voice telling me what a piece of crap I am. It's so much effort to get that one to shut up!" You're tired, aren't you? Whether you're reading this at 8am on a...
How Can I Succeed at Personal Growth?
"I ordered this new book and I think it's the answer!" "I found this person on Instagram—I'm learning so much!" "I signed up for another workshop and I hope this is gonna do it..." Do you sense a theme here? As a lifelong learner and the owner of two Master's Degrees,...
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