Deep
Thoughts
Have You Ever Gotten Heart Freeze?
"You are so stunning and kind-hearted. You are brilliant and talented and successful. You think deeply about the people in your life and anyone would be so lucky to date you!" Hearing this compliment, my friend smiled...at first. But the longer the compliment thread...
Stop Racing for Last Place
Do you always put yourself last? I was discussing with my massage therapist how often people see self-care appointments like massage as "luxury" rather than standard personal care. I notice that, especially as I get older, I have more people telling me they admire the...
How to Stop Being Too Humble
On the heels of my post about how there are no rewards for everyday greatness, I remembered a pivotal moment in my life that I want to share with you. Years ago, I tried to lead a group of senior colleagues in planning a big event. A couple people challenged me, with...
When Is My Personal Growth Work Done?!
A client texted me, “I get so frustrated / disappointed when I’m hit with waves of sadness or anger. I have this belief that if I was doing my inner work “right,” I wouldn’t be experiencing those big waves of emotion." We think there's a point where we should be...
Do You Ever Feel Guilty For Doing The RIGHT thing?
Not sending a birthday card. Not showing up for the baby shower. Ignoring their text. Even when we make these choices for a good reason, we can still feel so guilty! So let's talk about when that guilty feeling is useful...and when it really isn't. Guilt is triggered...
There Are No Awards for Everyday Greatness
"This award for achievement and excellence in their field goes out to...!" Wouldn't it be awesome if the world celebrated our personal accomplishments the way we do celebrities? Not a competitive awards show like the Grammys, but with big fanfare and public...
What Is It Costing You to NOT Let Go?
Have you ever gotten partway through a book or movie that you didn’t like, but decided to stick with it and finish it? What about a dessert that really doesn't taste good, but you choke it down anyway because you spent $6 to get it? Maybe you're hanging in on some...
Are You Fighting Something You Can’t Change?
I'm traveling this week to help my mom recover from a surgery (healing energy and good vibes for her healthy recovery are appreciated!) and there's also a lot of heart-holding I'm doing for friends and clients right now. Yesterday, my car gave me a maintenance light...
Why Don’t Some People Care When They Hurt Us?
Why don't some people seem to care when they have hurt us? When you have LOTS of empathy for others, it's a strong motivator to not cause harm because you can feel the impact of the harm. You care. It makes you feel bad and want to make amends and do things better in...
Your Brain Wants It Easy
"I know that 75 lbs feels heavy and you want to protect your knee, but trust me and try to lift it anyway." I'm swearing at my trainer under my breath (just kidding, Brandon!), but I know he's right. The body doesn't WANT to do hard things; we have to make it do them...
If your life looks great on the outside, but feels like crap on the inside,
let’s talk.
No pressure, no pushing. Let’s just connect and see what happens.