​"I screwed something up at work, and my logical mind knows it's gonna be okay, but I keep hearing this nasty voice telling me what a piece of crap I am. It's so much effort to get that one to shut up!" You're tired, aren't you? Whether you're reading this at 8am on a...

"I ordered this new book and I think it's the answer!" "I found this person on Instagram—I'm learning so much!" "I signed up for another workshop and I hope this is gonna do it..." Do you sense a theme here? As a lifelong learner and the owner of two Master's Degrees,...

I have a couple other posts I've been writing this week to share with you, but today I was struck by a desire to talk about who we give our love to versus who deserves it the most. Here's a short 3 minute video, a little Valentine from me to you. You have SO MUCH love...

"I'm really successful at what I do, but the truth is, I feel lonely a lot of the time." This client, like a lot of people I've worked with, struggles with emotional loneliness, and they think it's their own fault. But the truth is that they grew up in a family...

"I avoid thinking about it because every time I think about it, I cry. In fact, part of me didn't want to come to session today because diving into this has felt so hard."​ ​ I appreciate the bravery of my client who told me this. A lot of us avoid emotional pain way...

"I feel weird if I focus for very long on my accomplishments. I only let myself celebrate for a moment, and then my brain is like, 'what's next?!' I have to keep striving for the next achievement. But when will it be enough?"​ ​ ​Don't get too big for your britches....

"My mom has so many unreasonable demands. I try to just go along and not make waves to keep the peace. But now she's calling me almost every day and guilt tripping me when I try to say I can't talk."​ ​ No one likes to be attacked or mired in drama. It makes sense to...

"What he said was so hurtful! I must have really done something wrong to make him say that."​ ​ We have a tendency to assume that other people treat us a certain way because of who we are or what we have done. For example, if someone is mean to me, it must be because...

"My sister-in-law did this crappy thing again, but I know she's going through a lot of stress right now, and she probably didn't mean it to come across this way. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt...but it does feel terrible when she does this to me." My...

Things look so messed up, so I jumped in and offered a solution. But then my partner got really annoyed at me and we ended up in an argument. I thought I was helping. What happened?! ​ ​ When things seem like a urgent issue, many of us high performers get triggered...