“Don’t give up before the miracle.”
“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.”
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
Wisdom is abundant these days; you see a slew of inspirational quotes every time you open Instagram. So why don’t we feel very wise in our lives?
Instead we go on often making the same mistakes even though we know to think before we speak, not judge ourselves, and to be kind and rewind.
📼 (I know how old you are if you got that last one.) 😅
Many wisdom practices tell us that understanding something deeply is a process, not an intelligence test. It takes time and experience for us to work through a piece of learning and integrate it into all our parts and layers.
Even learning to walk is a process.
When I was in therapy grad school, my mentor gave me a gift with a quote from Rainer Maria Rilke. It said “Live the questions now.“
I didn’t get it then, even after reading the full exceprt, but later it became a mantra I would share with most of my clients. Because the essay goes on to say that we cannot be given answers now since we would not be able to LIVE them.
This is the key — we have to go through the wandering, the confusion, the MESS, in order to get to the place where we finally understand on a deep level.
And then, suddenly, it feels simple. The answer is so clear it can be written on a small scrap of paper.
If you’re currently in the mess, this is what I want you to remember — you are on your own path to wisdom. You will know the answer when you’re finally ready to live it.
And if you want some support in the midst of your mess, I’m here. You don’t have to wander alone.
I hope you’re able to love the questions you’re living.