Have you ever worked hard on a project, only to have your boss never mention it?
Take extra time to get dressed up for “date night” and your spouse doesn’t say anything?
Go out of your way for the school fundraiser and no one acknowledges it?
Resentment happens when we can’t stop thinking about what we should have received, but didn’t. It’s accompanied by frustration and hurt feelings. While it makes sense to feel disappointed about not getting what we want, holding on to that feeling is not good for us.
I get it. You’re saying,
“But Rachel, you don’t understand. I deserve to be recognized!”
True! And.. but.. also.. however…
Holding resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Resentment is often a byproduct of people-pleasing, which I shared about last week.
Fixating on what you didn’t get and picking at the wound won’t make you heal any faster. Instead of investing in resentment, you can DIVEST from it, meaning you cut the thought loose.
What if you could give yourself the love and attention you’re seeking with a generous heart?
How?
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- To celebrate your hard work, take yourself out in honor of a big win with your colleagues.
- To feel more special on date night, put on that perfume you love and take a selfie just for you.
- When volunteering, either be generous expecting nothing in return, or pass on the fundraiser if you’re too busy to give time!
You don’t have to keep seeking appreciation from places where you’re not getting it. You deserve more than that.
Focus instead on pleasing yourself and notice where the resentment feeling is showing you that you need to make a change.
“But Rachel, what if I CAN’T let it go?”
P.S. If you’re stuck, or they aren’t receptive, reach out. Schedule a chat and we’ll talk!
