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Thoughts
The Pain of You Should Have Known…
"You should have known better." That's the phrase I dreaded hearing in my youth. When I would make a mistake and get found out, my parents or my boss would look disappointed and trot out that comment. In my last decade, I started really challenging the idea that I...
Real Change is Incremental
"Wow, I feel great right now. I'm so glad to not be suffering like that. But I'm really scared this feeling will go away." Do you ever feel like my client did here? Feeling grateful for experiencing relief from mental suffering, but also worrying that the relief is...
What If Always Trying Your Best Is the Problem?
Have you ever started a new job and wanted to bring your best to it but felt like you just didn’t know enough and were going to fail?What about a time where you just started learning a skill like painting and felt scared to put the brush on the canvas?There are so...
The Gap of Understanding
Ever have a conversation with someone that just goes off the rails? One minute, you're just casually chatting about something innocuous like your favorite TV show, and the next moment, they've got some heat in their voice and a tear in their eyes. Somehow things seem...
If You’re In the Wrong Market, You’ll Be Undervalued
"If you are in the wrong market, you're going to be undervalued." I said this to a client this morning as we were looking at her pattern of seeking approval from the wrong people. How many times have you felt ineffective or not appreciated by the people around you?...
Is It Really About You At All?
Ever get hurt by someone and then exclaim,"Why are they doing this to me?!" We tend to think that people are as aware of us as we are of ourselves. And this is just untrue. Most folks are just pinging around life like they are in a pinball game. People run into you...
Are Beliefs a Choice?
"I know money is fickle and it goes where it wants." "I know I don't have the right to demand health from the Universe." "I know I can't just cut people out of my life because that's not unconditional love." As a Soul Medic, I hear a lot of beliefs that get stated...
How to Catch a Reaction Before It Takes Hold
How do you know that you're caught in reactivity? Most of us have been a ways down a course of behavior before we look up and say, "oh crap, how did I get here?!" After thirty minutes of ranting at a friend or yelling at our spouse, only then do we notice that we...
Do You Like Conflict?
Do you like conflict? Okay, who says yes to that question? Only people who audition for reality shows, I think. Here's a very personal confession: I hate conflict. Like, HAAAATE it. I used to believe that finding a way to avoid conflict was the best thing I could do...
Are You Sick of Arguing With Yourself?
💭 "I really want that ice cream cone?" 🙅🏽♀️ "No, I shouldn't have it. It's too late at night. I'm already full. I won't feel good afterwards..." 💭 "Omg, I did something so embarrassing in that meeting! I'd better message everyone to apologize." 🙅🏽♀️ "Love, don't do...
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