My massage therapist pressed on a muscle beneath my shoulder blade, and I could feel it—that sudden surge of emotion that meant I was gonna cry. On the table, face in the cradle, I let it out. Later, I was at home watching a movie and felt inundated with all the...

I think about my negative patterns all the time and I know what I should do. With all this time I'm spending thinking about it, why doesn't it ever get better?! Thinking about an inner action, for example, forgiving yourself, is different than actually doing it. It...

You don't have to be small in order to belong. You don't have to shrink down to be accepted.You don't have to constantly make space for everyone else.If you grew up trained to be a "good girl" (ahem), you may have gotten messages like I did -- "Don't be too big for...

Have you ever watched a kid learn to skateboard? They take so many runs at it, and so many falls. But when they are determined, they somehow keep getting back up and trying again. Eventually, they are zooming around the parking lots with looks of glee on their faces....

Before I sat down to write this post, I was feeling all bleh and stuck. I had the afternoon blahs. And I knew it was because I had been in Zoom meetings and client sessions all day. So I took the dog on a walk and threw his ball for a while. And I trusted that would...

"You should have known better." That's the phrase I dreaded hearing in my youth. When I would make a mistake and get found out, my parents or my boss would look disappointed and trot out that comment. In my last decade, I started really challenging the idea that I...

"Wow, I feel great right now. I'm so glad to not be suffering like that. But I'm really scared this feeling will go away." Do you ever feel like my client did here? Feeling grateful for experiencing relief from mental suffering, but also worrying that the relief is...

Have you ever started a new job and wanted to bring your best to it but felt like you just didn’t know enough and were going to fail?What about a time where you just started learning a skill like painting and felt scared to put the brush on the canvas?There are so...

Ever have a conversation with someone that just goes off the rails? One minute, you're just casually chatting about something innocuous like your favorite TV show, and the next moment, they've got some heat in their voice and a tear in their eyes. Somehow things seem...

"If you are in the wrong market, you're going to be undervalued." I said this to a client this morning as we were looking at her pattern of seeking approval from the wrong people. How many times have you felt ineffective or not appreciated by the people around you?...