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How to Cultivate Emotional Sovereignty
How do you deal when the going gets tough? I love a good reality show because, as a psychology nerd, I learn so much about how people work -- how they fail, how they deal with inner flaws, and how they get back up again. Snowflake Mountain on Netflix is the latest...
Wisdom Is Not Simple
"Don't give up before the miracle." "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink." "We accept the love we think we deserve." Wisdom is abundant these days; you see a slew of inspirational quotes every time you open Instagram. So why don't we feel very...
How to Stop the Cycle of Reactivity
Ever watch someone handle a difficult situation with grace, instead of snapping back or losing their self-control? You might think to yourself, "I wish I could do that. I have no idea how they are so calm!" Meanwhile, you find yourself doing or saying things in the...
Boundaries Are Not Collaborative
"Would you like to brush your teeth this evening?" "I understand you’re mad, but would you be willing to stop yelling?" As parents, we’d never say that. We don’t give kids options. We set boundaries and stick to it. That’s what helps kids grow up to be responsible...
Why Do So Many People Get Burnout?
Unless you’ve been living under a grey rock, you’ve heard about the "Great Resignation." It’s the global phenomenon where people began leaving their jobs en masse in 2021. We are, collectively, tired of not be treated right, of being taken for granted, and of not...
Harmful People – What to do about them
(Harmful people post 2 of 2. See Harmful People Warning Signs here.) Once you're able to spot harmful people, what can you do about them? First, remember it’s not your job to fix anyone, and the more you try, the more it erodes away your own confidence and personal...
Harmful People – Signs to Watch Out For
(Harmful people post 1 of 2) You've probably heard about "toxic relationships" or difficult people (or toxic people and difficult relationships). In this post I'm using the term "harmful people" to encompass all of those things. I wanted to give you some tools in...
Becoming a Grey Rock To Stop Energy Suckers
"Just cut them out of your life." You’ve probably heard this advice when talking about dealing with harmful, abusive people, BUT….. What happens when you can’t just have them be dead to you? If it’s a parent, boss, teammate, or sibling, sometimes you can’t just cut...
Emotions Are a Body Experience
Have you ever had this happen? You tell yourself, "Don’t cry, don’t cry, don’t cry… keep it together... don’t cry" … …… And then the water works. Why can't we control those damn emotions?! Emotions are so inconvenient and messy -- I know you probably wish you could...
Ghost Anxiety and How to Care Without Carrying
We are living in unpredictable and difficult times. There is so much we haven’t been taught to do that we need in order to stay healthy and have our energy flowing well. Stuff like shedding what doesn’t belong to us, including what I'm calling "ghost anxiety, " which...
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