Sometimes my job is to help people hit the Wall of Futility with both more expediency and compassion than they would on their own. Hitting the Wall of Futility (an expression I first read in an amazing book called "Parenting Without Power Struggles") is a part of the...
without a healthy arrogance, you end up not fighting for yourself and your ideas. You back down more readily, because you don’t want to start an argument and you don’t want people to think you’re “difficult,” “emotional,” or least of all, “angry.” And this fear of how we are perceived, along with our fear of the conflict that would arise, keeps women from advocating for the changes that we see NEED to happen.
In our culture’s abbreviated manner of dealing with emotional hurt, we hear phrases like “forgive and forget” or “just get over it.” But trust me, that’s not “being an adult,” it’s the Bat Signal for Denial.
"Rachel, I have to tell you about what's happened since we worked together last spring. The thing I got really clear on was that I didn’t have to change my boyfriend for it to be a good experience. When we talked about leaving him better than I found him, at first I...
what’s been coming up in spades lately is surrender. I remember a friend once evoking it like in the Wizard of Oz, when the witch writes “SURRENDER DOROTHY” with her broom in the sky. That makes me laugh, which helps me surrender.
I got the nudge to visit the naked lady spa tonight. It was 9pm. I was in Eastlake, just leaving my office, and they close at 10. "Really?" I thought to myself. "That seems not quite right. It'll be a lot of money for only a little bit of time." "Go anyway," my inner...
When you fail, you’ll meet yourself. When you know you’re meeting a friend, that makes failure much less scary.
I absolutely love my work.
My philosophy is best described in the Ram Dass quote, “We are all just walking each other home.” My clients often comment on feeling safe with me. They appreciate that I don’t ever judge them or put myself “one above” them.
I figure that it’s taken a village to teach me what I know now; what I do is pass along this wisdom and the energy of loving kindness that has been gifted to me. It means more than I can say that I get to help wonderful people toward a deeper sense of themselves – to give them the gift of more presence, self-love, and belonging in the world.